You can spend a very long time thinking you’re “bad at life” before realising something else might be going on.

A lot of neurodivergent people arrive in therapy already exhausted from trying to explain themselves. Not just to other people, but to themselves too.

Years of wondering why things seem harder than they “should” be, why everything takes so much effort,
why you feel simultaneously “too much” and “not enough”.

I try to create a space that feels real enough for people to stop masking so hard. I work in a way that leaves room for tangents, overthinking, unfinished thoughts, and the occasional complete mental blank. I’m neurodivergent too, so trust me, between us, there’s a fair chance at least one train of thought will leave the station unexpectedly.

In my experience that’s where the gold is.

A lot of the neurodivergent people I work with have spent years masking. Appearing capable. Functioning externally. Trying very hard to stay on top of things. Often at quite a significant internal cost.

Sometimes what brings people to therapy isn’t crisis exactly. It’s the quieter realisation that life feels harder than it looks for everyone else.

That relationships feel confusing. That burnout keeps happening. That they’re constantly overthinking social interactions. That they can never quite switch off. That they feel emotionally overwhelmed by things other people seem able to brush past.

And then there’s the grief side of it. The grief of late recognition. Of looking back over your life with completely new context. Of wondering what might have been different if someone had noticed earlier.

I don’t provide diagnostic assessments, that’s the work of a clinical psychologist, not a therapist. But therapy can still be incredibly valuable whether you’re diagnosed, questioning, self-identifying, or simply exploring parts of yourself that are starting to make more sense.

Because often the work isn’t about finding a label. It’s about understanding how you move through the world, what’s exhausting you, what you’ve adapted to survive, and what happens when you stop treating yourself like a problem to solve.