You write a perfectly reasonable reply to someone’s post.

You read it back.
Seems fine.

You read it again.
Hmm.

Delete a sentence.
Add a “haha” so you don’t sound intense.
Remove the “haha” in case it looks forced.
Consider a thumbs up instead.
Decide that somehow looks passive aggressive.

Post it anyway.

Then wait.

And wait.

They’ve been online. You can see that.
But no reaction.

Now your brain is hosting a full inquiry.

“They’re annoyed.”

“I overstepped.”
“I shouldn’t have said that.”
“Why did I say that?”

No one has accused you of anything.
There’s no actual evidence.
But your body has already decided you’re in trouble.

For some people, this isn’t just Facebook. It’s life.
A solid chunk of energy and attention is spent constantly checking the temperature of the room.

Scanning faces. Replaying conversations. Softening opinions. Apologising just in case. (Dead giveaway is if you apologise when someone else steps on your toes…..)

Not because you’ve done something wrong.
But because somewhere along the line, it felt safer to assume you had.

That’s what we call fawning.
It’s what happens to a nervous system that learned early on: “Keep the peace. Stay liked. Stay safe.”

Therapy doesn’t teach you not to care what anyone thinks.

It helps you notice when your brain is filling in a story that isn’t actually happening.
When your fear is louder than the facts.

And it gives you somewhere to put all that constant “Am I okay?” energy down for a while.

If you’re tired of feeling in trouble for just existing… we can work with that. Reach out, let’s talk.