Five minutes on social media can be enough to make you question your entire relationship.
The smiling selfies. The anniversaries. The “couldn’t do life without you” captions. Meanwhile you’re sitting on the edge of the bed after another circular argument, or lying next to someone you love and feeling miles away.
It’s hard not to wonder if you’re the only ones finding this difficult. The truth is, most relationships look smoother from the outside than they feel on the inside. And comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel can leave you feeling ashamed, isolated, and as though you’ve somehow failed at something that’s supposed to come naturally. And yet this is where most couples find themselves at some point. Not broken. Not doomed. Just tired of going round the same loop.
Relationships can be amazing. They can also, quite often, be an absolute nightmare.
Not necessarily because something is fundamentally wrong with you or your partner — but because being really close to another person is one of the hardest things humans do. You’re two people, shaped by completely different histories, trying to build something together. Of course it gets messy sometimes.
You might be stuck in arguments that flare up quickly and resolve nothing. Or the opposite. A polite distance that looks calm on the surface but feels lonely underneath. One of you reaches, the other retreats. One wants to talk, the other shuts down. Over time it can start to feel less like you’re on the same side and more like you’re managing each other.
Sex and intimacy often get pulled into this too. Desire shifts. Initiating feels risky. Rejection stings more than either of you want to admit. Sometimes it’s easier to avoid it than to risk another awkward conversation. What used to feel natural can begin to feel loaded, pressured, or quietly absent.
Couples counselling offers a space to slow this down. To look at what’s happening between you without turning it into a courtroom. We pay attention to the patterns you both get caught in, especially in moments of stress or vulnerability. Not to assign blame, but to understand what each of you is protecting, needing, or struggling to say.
There are no quick fixes here. No scripts for the perfect relationship. Just an honest exploration of how you relate, what hurts, what still matters, and whether there’s a different way of being together that feels more alive and less exhausting.
You don’t have to be on the verge of breaking up to come to couples counselling. Some of the most useful work happens before things get to that point.
I work with couples of all kinds — different backgrounds, different ages. As long as you both want to be there, we can work with it. I’m kink-aware and work with ethically non-monogamous couples and different relationship structures. Whatever your relationship looks like, you’ll find a non-judgmental space here — no explaining yourself, no justifying your choices.
Together we can work on:
Communication and conflict
When talking to each other has started to feel like defusing a bomb — or when one of you has simply stopped trying because it never seems to go anywhere. We’ll look at what’s underneath the arguments, not just the arguments themselves.
Intimacy and sex
Whether physical closeness has dropped off, you want to explore something new together, or there’s a mismatch in desire or needs — this is not off the table. I work with all of it, without embarrassment and without judgement.
Infidelity and trust
Whether you want to rebuild after a betrayal or understand what happened and make a clear-eyed decision about what comes next — I can hold space for both of those possibilities. I’m not here to tell you what to do.
Life transitions
New baby. Bereavement. Redundancy. Kids leaving home. Illness. Life has a way of testing relationships at exactly the moments when you’re already stretched. We can work with whatever has shifted between you.
What happens in sessions?
We’ll talk. Properly. Not in careful, polished sentences — in the real, sometimes uncomfortable, sometimes funny, sometimes muddled way that humans actually talk when they’re trying to work something out.
I won’t take sides, and I won’t pretend I haven’t noticed something important just because it’s awkward. My job is to help you both feel heard — which, honestly, is often half the battle — and then to help you start to understand each other a bit better. What’s really going on. What you actually need. Where the disconnect is happening.
Sometimes that means looking at the patterns you’ve both brought into the relationship from long before you met each other. Sometimes it’s more immediate than that. Usually, it’s a bit of both.
Sessions are 75 minutes — longer than standard individual therapy, because there are two of you and you both deserve space to be heard. We’ll meet weekly, and you’ll both need to be there each time. Sessions cost £90.
Most couples work through somewhere between 6 and 12 sessions, though that varies depending on what you’re bringing. A typical course might include an initial joint session, a core working stretch of weekly sessions, and then a consolidation period as things settle — with follow-up sessions available further down the line if you need them.
After our first session together, I’ll see you separately.
The second session is actually two individual sessions — one after the other, each priced at £60 — one for each of you. By that point we’ll have met as a group, so I’ll already have a sense of what’s going on between you. The individual sessions give me a chance to hear your personal history and background without your partner in the room, and give you a space to say the things that might feel too raw or too loaded to raise together straight away.
What you tell me in your individual session stays between us. The only exception is if I think withholding something would get in the way of the work we’re doing together — in that case, I’ll encourage you to bring it into the room yourself. If you’re not comfortable with that, we’ll have an honest conversation about whether couples work is the right fit right now.
How do we know if this is right for us?
If you’re wondering whether this might help, we can start with a simple intro call. Nothing formal. Just a chance to talk about what’s been going on and see how it feels to speak about it with me there. If it feels like a fit, we can take it from there. If not, that’s okay too.
Relationship Intensives
For some couples, drip-feeding an hour a week into something that feels urgent just doesn’t cut it. Maybe you’re at a crossroads and you need to actually get somewhere, not just circle the same ground week after week. Maybe you’ve done therapy before and you want to go deeper, faster. Maybe life is chaotic and committing to a regular weekly slot feels impossible right now.
That’s where a half-day intensive comes in. It’s a single extended session of four hours — enough time to actually get into the difficult stuff without one eye on the clock. We’ll work through what’s going on between you in a way that simply isn’t possible in a standard session, and you’ll leave with something real to take away, not just a sense that we’ve scratched the surface again.
It’s not a shortcut. The work is the same — it’s just concentrated. Some couples find that more useful than spreading it across weeks. Others use it as a way back in after a crisis, when waiting for the next available weekly slot isn’t an option.
What’s included:
A half-day intensive includes a preparatory call beforehand so we’re not spending the first hour finding our feet, the intensive session itself, and a follow-up session within two weeks to consolidate what came up.
The cost is £450.
This can be a standalone experience, or the beginning of an ongoing piece of work — whatever makes sense for where you are. If you think this might be what you need, get in touch and we’ll have a conversation about whether it’s the right fit.
Sometimes weekly sessions aren’t enough — or aren’t the right fit.
